Have you ever had an “ah ha moment”? Years ago I had one when I heard what the definition of insanity was: “continuing to do the same thing day after day expecting a different result.” The realization that I was living my life day after day doing the same thing and wondering why my life was not going well was a wakeup call for me. That is when I decided to start doing things differently. I knew if I wanted my world to change, I was going to have to change, so I started my new journey.
One of the things I had to do first was take responsibility for my life and stop blaming others for my unhappiness. I had adopted a victim mentality and had not been aware of how destructive it had been. One of the first books I read was “How to Awaken the Giant Within” by Anthony Robins. It gave me some tools to use to start changing my thinking. I did not change over night, but slowly my attitude started changing and I found myself feeling a lot happier.
Life has not always been easy, but I try to look at things more objectively and not take things so personally. As a result, I feel so much more free and not in bondage to a victim mentality. It was not easy letting go of my old way of thinking, but it has been worth the work.
When I am working with people in therapy and they get an “ah ha moment,” I get excited, because I know change is on the way for them and it is for the better.