Last summer my daughter-in-law, Sarah, and I did a sprint triathlon. It was a lot of fun and I worked hard training. I already ran and biked, but had not swan competitively, so I had to train for that. We talked about doing it together again next year and I decided I would. It gives me something to work toward and keeps me motivated to always try just a little bit harder when I exercise. I came in forth in my age group in the event and my goal is to come in first next year. That means cutting 4 minutes off my time. Hopefully my bike chain won’t come off next year.
The event is exhilarating, and the journey in preparing is so rewarding. It also gives my daughter-in-law and I something to do together, besides shopping, which we love to do. Already we are building memories. Because the event fills up so quickly we felt we needed to sign up as soon as registration opened, which was midnight. We both got up and registered and unknown to each of us until 6:00 in the morning, we could not go back to sleep. It was a long day and we had to laugh because registration is still open two days later. Like she said, “We will not be doing that again.”
I heard a psychiatrist say that one of the things that creates happiness for us is having something to look forward to. I believe that is true. Another thing my husband and I are going to do this summer is take our grand kids camping. We have 11 grand children so getting them all there at the same time may be a challenge, but we will do our best. They range from 5 years old to twenty-two years old. Our oldest just got married so we gained another grandson. Already I am planning on what we can do with them that they will enjoy. I know we will be swimming, but setting around the campfire at night eating s’mores is the best. I love to hear the chatter and laughing over just silly things.
Staying connected to my family keeps life meaningful and grounded. I cannot imagine life without them. Building memories is important and nothing can take that away from me.
If life is boring for you, then I suggest planning something fun with someone you love. You will be surprised how much better you will feel, just thinking about it.
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Vickie Parker, LMFT
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